Believe it or not, your four-year old child can become stressed out. Just like you. You might think they are too young to have a lot of problems, but kindergartners can get stressed. When things don't work out, they're not happy. It'll usually be about friends and school.
It's tempting to treat sadness with ice cream or cookies, TV time, or video games. But there are better ways to turn frowns into smiles.
Try these healthy solutions:
1. Play together. When your child is upset about an unkind friend at school, spend time with them. It lets them know that they're loved and special.
One of the best ways to play is by doing something active. Take a walk or ride bikes together. Teach them that exercise curbs stress and feels good.
2. Talk it out. Kids this age often have a tough time putting words to their feelings. They might not be able to tell you they're "disappointed" or "frustrated." They just know they're not happy.
You may have to help them express their feelings. Try: "It sounds like you're sad because Morgan wouldn't sit with you at lunch." Or, "I bet it hurt your feelings when Zach didn't pick you to be his partner."
Then, talk about what your child can do to feel better in that situation next time, like sit or play with someone else. Then let them know how they can feel better right now: "Let's go for a walk together." Teach them that moving their body can help them feel better.
The key is to listen and empathize.
3. Give them alone time. Kids are so used to the noise of electronics, playing, and other kids, that sometimes a little quiet is a welcome break. It may help them relax and calm down. After you talk, consider letting them have some quiet time. Kids shouldn't get more than 2 hours a day of TV, computer, or video games combined. Too much screen time keeps kids inactive when they could be moving and playing.
4. Get them to bed. Sometimes kids are cranky or don't feel well because they're tired. School-age kids ages 5 to 12 need 10 to 11 hours of sleep a night.
To make sure they get it regularly, set up a calming bedtime routine. Try a short talk about their day, a bath, and then read a book together. In their room, keep the lights low and the room temperature comfortable for sleep. Have them go to bed and get up at the same time every day.
Teach them that their body needs to sleep so they have the energy to play and have fun.
